I have been reading “The Art of Possibility” by Benjamin Zander. What a great read; I highly recommend it. 
It resonated with me so much; as often I hear my clients talking about the way things should be; “I should be doing (insert task, job whatever here)!” These people who have the best intentions; often deny the pull towards something bigger, something more excited because of I should statements.
What if we started challenging these I should statements? What if we started listening to our hearts and started thinking about what is driving us instead of what is holding us back?
So often we think about what is wrong that we forget to focus on what is good, right and positive. What if we shifted our focus and our attention to what we want? Can you really answer that question – what do you want? Who do you want to be?
Benjamin Zander puts this brilliantly in his book (The Art of Possibility 2002) as:
What assumption am I making, that I’m not aware I’m making that gives me what I see?
And when you have an answer for that question ask yourself this one:
What might I now invent that I haven’t yet invented that would give me other choices?
This is so powerful because when asking these questions we no longer feel it necessary to live and love by “I should” statements but we now give ourselves the permission to dream and create a new life that we design, change and control.
What if you started with small steps towards your dream? Small steps are the start of a great adventure! Start by dreaming what life could look like for you? Take that dream and start planning how to achieve it; break it down into manageable tasks! Then go and do it! It might be scary, but it will be worth it!
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